Mendhi Audlin 0:00
Would you like to play a game? I'm Mendhi Audlin. Thanks for being here with me. Today, I want to share with you a game that has the power to change your life seriously like to transform your life. So if you want to join The What If UP Club and really who wouldn't? If you're not already in the club, you can go to what if up.org sign our manifesto that puts you in the club and gives you access to our Facebook group. And we would love to connect with you and support you in bringing your good ideas to life. So I was having breakfast with my daughter the other day, and we have this Tic Tac Toe table that she made. She made it for me for Christmas, and she made it out of a slab of wood. It's very cool looking. And we were sitting at the table and we just started playing tic tac toe. So I brought my sample tic tac toe board to kind of show you how this, how this game went. So So I said, Hey, let's play. And you can go first. So she of course, you know, when you're playing tic tac toe, she took the center square. So she was the exes. And she put it right there, right in the middle, of course, prime real estate right there. So that was her move. And for me, I thought, Well, I'm gonna do something that my surprise her a little bit and I kind of went to the outside, you know, the outside in the middle. Very unexpected move. And of course, she was thrilled. So of course, she took the corner, thinking that she was going to have the quick win, right? So she took that corner down there and put her x in there. And of course, I saw what she was doing. So I had to block. So that's what I did, I put my little circle over there to block and of course, then she saw me and so she went and she blocked me. We're playing a little game here. And then I thought I'd have a little bit of fun with her. So then my next move, I came over here on our board, and I put my third out and I said boom, I win three in a row, I win. And she's like, Mom, you can't do that, that that circle is not on the board. So it's not in the box. But this is about thinking outside the box. What if you think a little bit outside the box? I said, you know, Jenna, the thing is, whenever someone who's thinking outside the box is playing against someone who is thinking inside the box, the person thinking outside the box will always win. It is an unfair advantage to be sure. But the lesson kind of resonated with me, I thought, Well, isn't that what The What If UP Club is all about? We're a club that is all about playing the game of life by thinking outside the box. And what is the box? The box is the paradigm that we learned when we were little, you know, when you're growing up and your brain is forming, and you're making all these neural connections and figuring out how the world works and how to solve problems. And what's possible isn't when your brain is putting together the box of the mental model that we live in. We can get stuck in that and it can be a very small game. But when we come together, we have the ability through our intentionality through the way we played the game of what if upping we have this ability to help each other bust beyond that known paradigm and to see things that we wouldn't have seen before new things become possible. Because we are when I am playing with you, your box is not the same as my box. And that means together, we can create something that alone none of us could create. So I want to invite you to play this game. Maybe not this Tic Tac Toe game, but play the game of what if upping and I want to share with you because we are hosting a possibility party for all of our members. So if you're not a member, go right now just go to what if up.org you can sign up, it's a free membership. You can sign our manifesto get into our Facebook group and get invited to all of our member events. So what happens in The What If UP Club what happens when we come together to use this process together? Now on your own, it's great, you can use it as a mindset hack. You can use it to help reduce stress and anxiety. You can look at the things that you want and say okay, well what if it all goes right? You can do this on your own. And when you do that, it's like you know, it's like playing solitaire with your tic tac toe board. What we do in a possibilities party what we do in our What if up local groups, is we come together and coming together allows us to see things that we wouldn't have seen otherwise, because we are tapping into the imagination of people who have a different playing field than us a different paradigm. So there's three things that happen in a possibilities party. And I want to give you this as an overview of what to expect knowing that I would love to have you come to our party so come to a possibilities party join The What If UP Club to get information on how to join us at our next online possibilities party, or to learn how to get involved in a local group or to start a local group, okay, so here's why our game is so powerful how it takes you outside of your, your mental model. So the first thing that is really truly transformational about being in a wolf up circle is the clarity that you will gain. So whenever you are what if appearing in a group, it always begins by sharing with a group something that you want. Now that can be a goal, a dream, a desire, or that could be a don't want, it could be, oh, this thing keeps showing up. And I want it to stop showing up. So you don't want there's a desire hidden in there, too. And one of the things is powerful about what if anything, is it helps you articulate the things that you want. For many people in our worship community. This piece, just simply answering the question, what do you want, and not having it be a dissertation not having a V, your life story or explaining or justifying what you want, but just being able to come into a group and say, Okay, here I am today, this is something that I want to be able to know it, to be able to articulate it and to have the confidence and the willingness to open yourself to a group requires some vulnerability, right? I, here's something that I want, I'm going to share that with you. For many people, this piece is one of the most transformational pieces of being in a wonderful circle is getting that clarity, and being able to get to it quickly so that people can share ideas, opening yourself to receiving ideas, it's a really big deal. So that's something that happens in our possibilities party. And at anytime we have a wonderful circle. The other thing that you'll find when you come into a possibilities party, or what have up circle is we have a specific structure. Now the structure is really important, because whatever that gameboard is that you grew up with whatever your model is, there are certain rules applied to it. And there's certain ways that you've played the game in the past. And sometimes, sometimes, for some of us, some of those rules, some of the ways that our brain operates are really working in a congruent way towards the things that we want. So we may say that we want something, but the way we approach it is maybe very negative. And it's it's focused on what we don't want or it's focused on past and what didn't work. So there's a structure, when we go into a waterfall circle, there are certain rules that we lay out every time we come together. And there is a certain way to play this game of what if upping so it is the structure that allows us to think outside the box and to do it in a way that is positive in a way that lifts your energy. And in a way that will call out any old patterns that really aren't leading you where you want to go. Things like you know, we don't get into our story, a lot of people go into their story to explain why they want to what they want. And they end up spending a lot of their time in the energy of the old story, what we do is we create the energy of the new story by not wallowing in the past. And we have other times when you can tell your story and connect at that level. But you know what, above circle, there is a specific structure in place. And that structure is designed to help us become more aware of the patterns that we tend to run. So that's part of the magic of it. The third piece that you will find anytime you come together in a possibilities party or in a what if circle is there is a level of connection that happens. And the reason that happens is because you're in a circle with people, and someone is sharing what they want. And everyone else I mean, everyone, including the person who's sharing their desire is putting forth ideas, possibilities, what ifs, in order to provide an idea for someone else, we must first care enough to understand what it is that they want. And then to access our own resource bank of ideas to see what do I have in here? What do I have on my playing card that might be able to help you with the game that you are playing in your life with what you are trying to create in your life. So in order to do that in order to simply provide a what if idea for someone else, it requires us to establish a connection between what it is that you want and what my experience is that might be able to help and that connection. It doesn't happen unless there is caring it doesn't happen unless there is an energy that is committed to focusing on something else. And that connection is powerful. There's also some amazing, very interesting. I'm gonna say, research, science.
It's more it's very hard to prove this. I recommend the power Have a by Lynne McTaggart, it's very difficult to prove this. But one of the things that I have found, through my experience and that others have have cited as well, is that when all you're focused on is what you want, and you have your head in the sand just burrowed into focusing on what you want, there can be a lot of resistance. But when we can sit down and we can share we want receive, and then set it down and move into service, move into connection with others move into looking for, how can my experience be of service to someone else, that something happens over here, in this letting go and being of service, something happens over here to our own desires, that is nothing short of magical. I invite you to experience it for yourself to put it to the test to see what happens when you gather with others to practice this process. So possibilities party join our What if up club at what if up.org so that you can get invitations to find out how to join, when to join in your timezone. And I promise you, it will be a fun evening of connection and hope and joy, imagination, wisdom and endless possibilities. It is so great to connect with you. I'd love to hear what are you creating? Post something in our group share something in the comments. What do you love about the process? What do you love? For those of you who have been what if upping in groups? What do you love about the process? What have you noticed as a benefit for you in taking this waterfall process and experiencing it with other people? I would love to hear from you. Make sure you Like Subscribe, share this podcast, post a review. That's a great way for us to become more visible to other people as well. What if you just take a moment to to share this message with the people that you care about and expand our circle of love and hope and inspiring positive change. Thanks for being here, everybody. Thanks. I hope you have a great week. I'll see you next time
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